Don’t Be Scared To Get Lost

Don’t Be Scared To Get Lost

“Some paths can’t be discovered without getting lost”

In life, there are so many different paths that you can take; we get told from an early age that we decide which path to take in life. I found the quote above only today and it got me thinking about my life and how true this quote is.

A little insight into my little life, I use to be a bubbly, outgoing and social person but it all went wrong when I met the wrong person. Everyone makes mistakes, not everyone is perfect but you can be perfect through someone’s eyes. I fell into what I call a downward spiral which includes self doubt, anxiety, and all sorts of other negative feelings that I wouldn’t wish on even my worst enemy. While I was going through that downward spiral I did get lost; actually lost is an understatement. I took a path which brought me into a brighter life and only recently I went back into that downward spiral. This is a path I had already gone down which meant that I could figure out different ways to cope so I won’t end up on that downward path again. It’s a bit like a snakes and ladders game, you might laugh at the thought of that but in these times, the best way is to laugh it off.

Overthinking:
All the negative feelings that you may experience, the stress, the anxiety is all stemmed from the processes that go through out heads each day. Everyone is guilty of overthinking because we believe that the more we think about it the quicker we might solve it. That is definitely not the case. In fact, the more you think about it, the more holes you pick in it, the more you find more flaws that probably aren’t there which leads to stress. So, whatever happens, you accept what happens no matter how difficult that might be as over analysis gets you nowhere. You’re just wasting valuable time. Live for the present moment, don’t try and predict the future. We don’t know what will happen tomorrow.

Do something:
As I said before, we can’t control what happens tomorrow but we can control what we do everyday and therefore do something you want to do. Once you start doing things that you want to do and are on your bucket list you’ll instantly feel better because you’ll feel like you are achieving something. Once you start doing things you’ll feel a confidence and self esteem boost; trust me on this. I might not be in my perfect place right now but I am starting to do things each and every day that I want; not because I am being told to.

Start believing in yourself:
Don’t doubt yourself, believe that you are great, amazing and beautiful. Try your best in everything you do and when you try something new, believe that you can do it. Don’t doubt yourself, just go ahead and do it; the end result will be worth it. Don’t get hung up on how other people do it, you do it the way you think it’s best, roll with it and keep your head up high.

Don’t be afraid to get lost, don’t be afraid to take a path you’ve never been on before because we can’t predict the future but we take control of what happens today. So take the day with both hands, do something you want to do and believe that you are an amazing person, inside and out, no matter how lost you may feel. Don’t be scared. Be strong.

I’ll leave this quote, some food for thought…

I feel like my life has taken a turn. I’m heading down a road I’ve never been on before. Nothing is familiar. The signs don’t make sense. Do I get off the road, or do I keep riding? The people that I see aren’t the people i know. Do I go alone or take others with me? Who do I trust and who do I not?

 

 

Uniqueness – Everybody, Everything, Anything

Adjective: 1. existing as the only one or as the sole example; single; solitary in type or characteristics. 2. having no like or equal; unparalleled; incomparable.

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Stood on Queen Square, admiring the brown autumn leaves on the ground. While I’m looking around I see that one tree amongst all the others surrounding the square being the last one still with all it’s green leaves. This made me think about how everyone has a unique factor about them; even trees do. It’s autumn and all the leaves are a bright, fresh green colour clinging onto the branches without a sweat. Everyone or anything is unique whether it’s unique by colour, shape, size, piercings/tattoos (relating to people), how they or things are treated or how they or things are looked at. I feel the best way to describe uniqueness is imagine that we are all snowflakes. You will never be able to find two snowflakes that look the same whether it’s size, shape, the way they fall, the way they land or how quickly they melt.

But why do people always ask ‘what makes you unique?’ in an interview or people saying ‘they want to be different and unique from everyone else’. I find that people don’t realise they are unique before they even starting changing their appearance, their attitude or who they make friends with. You are unique from the day you are born and that can be scientifically proven as everyone’s spiral of DNA and fingerprints are different to any other person. If you put science to one side everyone has their own potential such as gifts and talents which contributes towards that person’s uniqueness to the world.

Why do you think there was only one:

  • Michelangelo Buonarroti (greatest artist of the Italian Renaissance);
  • Mahatma Gandhi (preeminent leader of the Indian independence movement and inspired movements for civil rights and freedom across the world);
  • Michael Schumacher (seven-time Formula One World Champion, one of the greatest Formula One driver of all time);
  • Margaret Thatcher (Only longest-serving woman Prime Minister of the United Kingdom).

Everyone above is unique because they are made up of all their own potential and this is why there’s only going to be one of you or one of anything for that matter. Yes, now you’re saying but all trees have a trunk, all humans have hands, feet, eyes or all cars have exhausts. But if you think about it in depth not all of that is true.

Potential is like a paradox because we are part of a human family but we are unique within that family through the various different dreams we have, different jobs we have, various backgrounds we have or upbringing. If you think through all the talents you have whether it’s singing, solving algebra equations, knowing which way is north by looking around you or even solving a rubix cube which is your best? Once you’ve picked the talent that you love and you excel yourself in; imagine you’re in a room with 99 other people and they can’t carry out that talent/skill as good as you that talent that you have puts you in the top 1% of the population! Now that’s unique!